Ladies and Gentlemen, royalty is in the house – let the Queen Archetype enter the stage! It is time to claim your crown with confidence and grace.

This feminine archetype is a true powerhouse of a woman. As the ultimate embodiment of feminine power, she commands respect and attention wherever she goes, all while being extremely charismatic.


Common Characteristics of the Queen Archetype

While it is quite easy to conjure the image of an idealized queen, there is more to this archetype than what meets the eye. Let’s first get to know the main characteristics of the Queen (or Ruler) archetype.

Deepest desire: Personal power

Goal: Achieving greatness

Deepest fear: Losing control

Signature move: Not shy to use her charm to get what she wants

Hidden talent: Empowering others through leading by example

As one would expect from a queen, this archetype is a natural leader. Taking charge comes naturally to her and she guides those around her with confidence and grace.
Think of the classic ‘Queen B’ – popular, admired and confident. Many women who embody the Queen Archetype are influential figures.
The Queen is constantly busy building her empire – that might be through curating her social circles or growing her career. Being in control of things and overseeing the playing field gives her a sense of power and meaning.
Often equipped with a very social personality, she has a great gift for networking and knows exactly how to get to the right people. Both as a friend and partner, she is incredibly loyal once you gain her trust.
A mature Ruler is ready to take responsibility and take action. Combined with her ambitious instincts, she has great potential for achieving greatness in life.
Setting goals and working for achievements makes this archetype thrive. She is assertive, knows exactly what she wants and is not afraid to go after it!
Queens also tend to enjoy luxury and self-care more than other feminine archetypes. She certainly knows how to have a good time and is not shy to invest in exclusive experiences (or advanced education!) for herself.

The Queen and Relationships

When it comes to love, the Queen Archetype is likely attracted to equally successful men – she wants a partner who can provide her security and who is not intimated by her success.
Naturally, the Queen is rarely found alone – she will spend her free time either being out having fun with her friends or enjoying quality time with her partner.
Seen from a traditional perspective, the Queen Archetype is considered to be strongly drawn to marriage. While nowadays, marriage may not be the ultimate end goal anymore, she still certainly prefers to be in a relationship than alone.
Long-lasting relationships are an absolute priority in a Queen‘s life and she may feel incomplete without a partner.

The Queen Archetype‘s Shadow and Weaknesses

With great power comes great responsibility – we all need to check in on the shadow side of our personality and stay accountable for how we deal with it.

If you are not familiar with the concept, the “shadow” is a term established by Carl Jung to describe the hidden aspects of the human psyche, including our darkest desires, weaknesses, and shame-filled parts of ourselves. 
By doing so-called “shadow work,” we can learn to integrate and make peace with these parts of ourselves, rather than repressing them. This can help us become more whole and balanced individuals.
Sometimes, the Queen‘s ambition threatens to overtake her. With a natural tendency towards workaholism, she needs to be careful to not burn herself out. It is important she chooses her projects carefully and learns where to invest her energy.
Socially speaking, the Queen can be prone to arrogance and a sense of entitlement. However, this usually is a protective mechanism that is rooted in insecurity. Looking at her from the outside, it can be hard to believe, but the ruler is often less sure of herself than she seems to be.
Some Queens also tend to be rather judgemental and superficial – when something (or someone) does not shine as brightly as them, they may quickly dismiss it.
In relationships, her tendency to want to be in control can cause problems. The Queen Archetype in her shadow often struggles with jealousy and trust issues, traits that can quickly deteriorate her relationship if she chooses not to work on them.
Since being in a committed relationship has such a high importance for her, she may sometimes jump into relationships too quickly or stay in them longer than what is healthy.
It can be hard for her to admit personal struggles – on the outside, she is always keen to maintain the “picture-perfect” life, career, or relationship.
To step out of these patterns, the Queen Archetype needs to assess her priorities and work on building more self-confidence, rooted in the knowledge of being enough.
For the Ruler to come into the fullest expression of herself, it is important to work on her shadow side. This can be done by working on self-awareness or journaling prompts such as:

  • What are my unique strengths?

  • How can I use my talents to uplift others?

  • Did anyone or anything make me feel like I am not good enough?

  • Is there any reason not to trust my partner? Do I trust myself?

  • How can I create intimacy without needing to control?

  • Do the goals I pursue actually fulfill me?

  • Are there relationship patterns I repeat over and over again?

  • Do I need success to be happy?